I write for a hobby, mainly fiction and some autobiography. I got stumped on a love story that I was writing last fall, when I realized that I could not convey what the characters, a man named Mark and woman named Pica were going through during the relationship that involved feelings of love. I have personally lived in toxic situations and had survived this long, feeling little unconditional, family or intimate love. I felt ashamed that I was denied this type of relationship with another human being, and set forth my research. I checked out library books, movies, watched YouTube videos on how couples met and fell in love. I listened to elders tell me about how they met their spouses and I even signed up for online dating (as an experiment) in Sept 2018. I have been single and raising children alone for more than 14 and 1/2 years. My family consists of 1 daughter, 1 son, 2 guinea pigs and 1 rabbit. I don't have a friend to cry on their shoulder or them mine...so I gave myself a week (ha!) to learn from others how to work on a chapter in my story that included love and dating, and at the time last fall, I realized that I had never actually dated anyone in my entire life. I did meet 1 guy at a movie once as a teenager after getting a ride with a group of friends after being denied by a parent to be able to go with the guy himself. That "relationship" was a disaster by the way.
So, I watched fiction and fact on hetero, homo, bi, and whatever kind of love stories, the universe brought to me. It's Feb 2019 and I have not touched my book (I've thought about it). It's as though I cannot just make up my own words for my own novel if I do not have experience with the topic. So, I am basically ignorant in the topic of love, and am willing to learn. Willingness is one of my keys of happiness and joy as I can look forward to changing myself in baby steps without feeling overwhelmed. Becoming willing comes after learning what is lacking and making a move toward committing to make a change without committing to make the change, yet.
I pray that I can be the character in a real life love story and that I will be thrown into a pot of love, as far as dating, romantic, intimate love and that it won't just be for my own desire and neediness but also to share this miraculous gift with another human being, and be able to finish my novel and share with the world a feeling that makes their hearts throb. Until, then, and who knows maybe it has already began to happen during this experiment, I will use my spirit person to help me show love to the rest of the world. If you have found love, learn more about how this affects your love. If you are searching, like me or have given up; please do not feel alone. We are not alone, for whatever reason some of us have not entered the right season to obtain this relationship. What can we do now with self-care, and non-selfish self-love that can help us to be better people, to love ourselves and lose fear of being loved by others? We have today and tomorrow is not a guarantee, so nurture, seek and never give up! Namaste.
February Black History Month and Love.
When I was a child my mother would take me onto Wurtsmith AFB to watch a black history month show being preformed on stage. Later, as a student at Michigan State University, I was a member of the Charles Drew Enrichment Laboratory which helped anyone but especially minorities who had a lower graduation rate after successful entrance, to graduate. We would have weekly circle groups where we each read our report about a minority, it opened my eyes to all the achievements that I never ever learned about before. I believe that it was at MSU or maybe PSU that we would have MLK day off, in January, and notices were sent out to have a "day on" not a day off, in which you were requested to volunteer in the community and give back. Since then I rarely hear anyone talking about MLK or Black History month and it makes me feel very sad! I do not hear of events. This past week I was told that I can watch a MLK celebration that took place at Beth Israel, in NW Portland recently, online. I would like to attend their event next year. I was so grateful that someone from the Jewish faith, after so many years, had informed me of an event and acknowledged history that so many people do not care about. I am not blaming anyone. I remember being a medical student and spending the whole MLK day in private clinics, sure kids and college students were out of school and the US mail was not delivered, but could we put up a sign somewhere with a group of diverse people having a peaceful time, pictures are worth a thousand words. I say that I am woke then casually "forget" that I can have my own celebration. That no one is stopping me from learning and relearning my history, not just of blacks, but of other ethnic groups, that I did not learn about in standard history courses or even about women, or silent heroes. Life as a minority can be so discouraging. I am a single mother and have very few "friends". There is so much racism in the world that it takes me doing a lot of prayer and meditation each day just to face the world. What I would like to see is love. Love for self, love for others and recognizing that each of us is an individual not a product of a stereotype that media attempts to portray. Peace; may you find yourself in good health.
Currently, I am being hired by clients and patients who are considered low income by society's standards, in the USA. My clinic is run by me alone and I have multiple jobs in order to be able to remain a physician for my patients and to raise my family as a single mother. I had multiple opportunities a couple years ago, where I could work at other clinics for a salary and earn more money that I ever had in my life. Something did not feel right about those opportunities and more than 1 was "just plain shady" and I could not allow myself to be dragged into that type of environment for any amount of money.
After experiencing years of homelessness in between my medical school and pre-medical education; I made a note to myself, after being treated poorly by multiple health practitioners based on demographic and yes they stated how they felt about my demographic...to-my-face- and in-front-of-my-children; I wanted to do what I could, God-willing, to be able to treat other human beings with R-E-S-P-E-C-T. I was raised to be polite and to respect my elders. I am frequently treated with disrespect and I turn that mess into a message. My message is loud and clear if you know me as a person or have been one of my clients.
On am on plan Z with my life. Paper to pen, I am going to go back through the alphabet starting with double A and double B. My body wants to give up and my mind wants to give up; thankfully my spirit has the faith of a mustard seed.
More will be revealed in this journey we call life. I share this painful truth, as others before me have done, leading to another glimmer of hope that all is not lost and a reminder to keep on trudging.
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The Birth Experience -Every Birth is Different: The Goal is the Same.
What to Expect in Natural Births, C-sections, VBACS and Preventing Preterm Births
By Michelle N. Brown-Echerd, ND - June 2015 Portland, OR, USA
Natural Births: A choice for many and defined differently; natural, vaginal, low risk births can occur with little intervention. There are many options available; be prepared for plans to change and be ready and educated, in advance, in case an urgent situation arises.
What will you do if you are preparing for a birth after having a prior C-section?
C-Sections: “Cesarean Sections” Many are planned in advance; some are urgent. Be educated prior to your due date about policies present at the place that you would like to deliver. Hire a doula for support. Make a birth plan.
Preventing premature/preterm labor and births:
This blog post is for entertainment and educational purposes only. It is not intended to take the place of medical care and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure any disease or condition. See your healthcare provider for health related issues.
The Birth Experience Every Birth is Different. The Goal is the Same.
What to Expect in Natural Births, C-Sections, VBACs and preventing Preterm births.
By Michelle Brown-Echerd, ND and provisional doula ICTC
Natural birth is a process of delivering vaginally without any interventions. This can occur in a variety of situations, including in hospitals, at homes or in birthing centers and unfortunately, but not the end of the world, sometimes occurs in cars, while people are on the way to the hospital or stuck in traffic.
There are various types of birth workers around the world including doctors (MD/ND), midwives, nurses, doulas, perinatologists, neonatologist, lactation consultants, massage therapists and other practitioners that have special training in birth related treatment including chiropractors, counselors and Reike practitioners.
Preventing preterm labor and births:
Welcome to the holiday season. What does this mean to you? Does the hype of the holiday cause you stress? There can be so many pressures during the holidays, leading to winters in the northern hemisphere, shorter days, cooler weather and expectations.
The winter months are also associated with cold and flu season. In our society, it is not always possible to stay home during the duration of an illness. Also, there are times when contagious illnesses are more contagious prior to knowing one is ill.
Keeping up with regular activity and extra holiday obligations may lead to stress, reduced sleep and less desirable food choices. These may make one more susceptible to becoming sick. We are all exposed to microbes at school, work, public places and from friends and family.
Good hygiene and frequent hand washing may help reduce exposure to germs and microbes. Staying away from sick people would be ideal. Find out work or school policies on sick leave prior to becoming sick to help reduce the stress of decision making in times of illness. Talking to health practitioners prior to becoming ill can help to be educated on how to make urgent or acute appointments, treatment or prevention options and information on the process of obtaining sick leave letters.
Setting boundaries can help to reduce stress during the holidays. Using a technique that works for you can become an invaluable tool to help get through the season. Starting with a simple piece of paper and pen can get the ball rolling quickly. The following list can get you started on setting up boundaries that work for you, your family and your budget:
• Finances & budget; needs vs. wants
• Food choices and staying hydrated
• Holiday activities
• Holiday gifts and cards
• Vacation time
• Family time
• Children’s activities
• Friends and fellowship time
• Setting boundaries with family; knowing when to draw the line and set limits
• Simple decorating ideas
• Immune support techniques
• R and R; rest and relaxation
• Pet care
• Home and yard care
• Work and home parties
• Heating and indoor air quality
• Weight management
• Physical activity
This blog post is for entertainment purposes only. This is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any ailment. For medical advice talk to your primary care practitioner.
Michelle Brown-Echerd, ND
Owner of Tower of Health, LLC